More babies

As I continued reading Elizabeth Mitchell's article she came to talk about her mother asking her brothers, if she had talked about having children yet. Elizabeth explains that everyone around her asks when she will become a mother, now that she in her late twenties. She states " In society, babies have come to represent everything but unmaturated human beings. They function as the nexus for debate and discussion in the world changed by feminism. Few people expect women's love relationships to resemble those of our grandmothers  or our mother , but more still wonder how anyone could reject children." She continues to say that for many mothers, babies are safety nets, because if anything else in life went wrong at least she bore children. 
For Elizabeth's own self and many other women like her, who aren't very interested in having children at an earlier age, she says that "children lie down the road, like a can they keep kicking and catching up to." Elizabeth  feels that she doesn't want her life to reside when another human being is born and I  can understand this.  There is no need for a women to feel that her life begins when she has a child, yes it might be  great experience for some but at the same time for others who don't really want children, it could become a challenge and a battle between their social life and their motherly life.

Being a mother at an early age for me wasn't my plan , but it is something that I learned to accept and to improve and now that my daughter is three, and I have experienced so much with her, I would not change anything. Motherhood was defiantly a challenge being young, because I had to adapt to the role of caring for someone else when I hadn't  finished learning a lot about life. I feel that these past years have allowed me to mature more and to learn the responsibilities that come with having a child, financially and emotionally but at the same time its something that I have realized has sort of  taken my youth. While I see friends and family going out on the weekends yes, it sucks to know that I cant go because I have motherly duties that I have to attend to first. I feel that its still different for  a women than a man when having children. Or maybe just in my experience, not saying that my boyfriend doesn't help out with my daughter, because in all reality he's been with my daughter more than me , but its a lot easier for him to say, I'm going out with friend, than it is for me.  For me, I feel that I need to plan so far ahead.  The very few times that i do go out I have to find someone to watch her, because its rare that he wants to stay home while I'm out with friends. I also have to make sure that she has what she needs if shes aways from home, like an extra pair of clothes, snacks and toys. I feel that its more work that I'm doing to go out that,  that's why I don't go out as much, plus because I am always away due to school and work that I like spending as much time as I can with her.

Back to the topic of more babies...While I was in Mexico, the beginning of this year, there were plenty of times that my family would ask my when was I going to have my next child. I looked at them, as if they were crazy! They compare me to my sister and say, shes already had two and your only on your first.  It's a little hard to explain and have them understand what like in American is compared to life in Mexico.  Thier so used to the Mexican traditions , being young finding a boyfriend, being married and having children.  That is not my plans at all! Yes I have a child but, I go to college, and work, as well as being involved with different organizations. Some of my Mexican family thinks I'm weird for not being a stay at home mom but I LOVE it. I have never seen myself as such, I like staying busy.  I don't plan on having any more children anytime soon, or even at all, who knows. My plans for now are all academic oriented. Don't get me wrong, I love my Mexican roots and our traditions, but I don't like that one or the stereotype of young minority mothers not getting far in their lives, I took this as a challenge when I found out I was pregnant and challenged myself to be different and Ive succeed thus far.  Although my daughter is sad that I'm not home a lot, at the same time it makes me happy to hear her say that she wants to go to college like me when she grows up, so as far as I know I'm filling my motherly duties, just in a different way. :-)
Q: Do people think a lot less of a mothers who are away from a child and being successful in life, as not being a good mother? If so why?